Jeanne King, Ph.D. - Abuse and Recovery

Did you know the signs of emotional verbal abuse are your friends if you recognize them for what they are?

An adult survivor of severe childhood abuse by her natural father plotted with her sister (also abused) to kill their parents in cold blood. The mother, who watched the children being abuse, took the first bullet and the abusive father the second.

As I'm watching this Law in Order, I'm reminded of the mother's dilemma. Love, or leave 'em? Each of these options can be equally ugly.

If she hangs in there to keep the family together, she is an accomplice in the child abuse. And if she leaves him, further abuse to her and to the children spikes more often than not. It is truly a dilemma.

I know . . . I lived it. When I reached my threshold of witnessing my ex batter our children, I opened two doors. One was the door of freedom to regain our safety and wholeness. The other was a black hole of social political crime beyond most people's imagination. For the whole story on this, you can read my book All But My Soul: Abuse Beyond Control or catch me at a speaking engagement.

For now, come with me and hear the point of this message from the core of your being. "If you fully embrace life with a batterer, you may very well be walking into quicksand!" Your enmeshment in and exit out can both be debilitating.

THIS IS WHY early detection is the best option when it comes to domestic abuse. This is why you want to know what are the signs of emotional abuse. What does your partner's emotional verbal abuse mean in the bigger picture of your relationship and in the bigger picture of your life?

October is National Domestic Violence Awareness month. If you are the least bit curious that you may be in an abusive relationship, I invite you to check it out, before it spirals out of control.

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About the Author
Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D. is a 25 year seasoned psychologist, author, speaker and leading expert in identifying intimate partner violence. Author of All But My Soul, Dr. King developed the Intimate Partner Abuse Screen, available online at http:// PreventAbusiveRelationships.com, to help people properly identify abusive relationships and end the cycle of emotional abuse. Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D. may be contacted at http://www.preventabusiverelationships.com. Click here to view more articles by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D..